I have the sweetest husband on earth! No really I do! He opens my door, tells me I'm beautiful even though I have gained 100 lbs. since we married, rubs my feet, gives me massages. A couple of years ago I read this book Five Love Languages it talked about how everyone has a "love language" and it described what they are. I don't remember all of them but Daniel's is "service" which after reading the book I realized that he likes me to cook dinner for him and take his glass into the kitchen when I am going that way etc. But not in a macho way because he does it for me too. But realizing this made me more aware that it is a big deal for him and it opened my heart to doing those things for him because I realized that he was doing them for me.
Mine was a little harder for me to come to terms with. I guess because I always felt selfish, entitled, spoiled but I realized that as long as I was giving love the same way I wanted to receive it then that wasn't the case at all. So my love language is "gift giving". I love to give gifts and I love to receive them!
When I was a kid I remember getting a gift for a friend's birthday party and I wanted to open it and play with it sooooo bad. Then my Mom said "You know you got someone a good gift when you want it yourself". This opened my joy for giving gifts because I KNEW they were going to be excited about the gift I was giving them. So from that point on whenever I give someone a gift I think about their interests, their talents, what they do, about who they are as a person etc. I try to put a lot of thought into it if I am buying something for someone or I put a lot of time into it if I am making something for someone.
So here comes the hard part to admit, the first several years of our marriage (ok until about 2 years ago, we will be married 8 this year!!) at every gift giving exchange with my husband the gifts he would give me were not my style and we would get into big fights about it and I would end up feeling like a brat and unloved since I felt like he didn't put a lot of thought into it. But in reality the poor man was trying soooo hard, like I said he is the sweetest man on earth!
One year I think it was Christmas time and out of desperation he asked me what I wanted instead of just guessing. And a lightbulb turned on and I said "You could go to Anthropologie and get something, because honestly ANYTHING from there I will love it!!". And this plan works because he loves their stuff too. (Side note: I am planning on working out this year to loose some weight to fit into their clothes but for now alllll of their housewares are AMAZING!)
So for Valentines he asked me what I wanted and I said " Just hit up Anthropologie". I am soooo glad he did because he bought the BEAUTIFUL quilt above! Not only have I been wanting a quilt for our bed but it saved me the time of making it AND he loves it too so for the first time in our married lives we can share the same quilt!!! So I thank you Anthropologie for saving my marriage and making gift giving exciting again!
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